Having a belief system brings with it its own inherent difficulties.
The first one to generally greet us is that not everyone believes in our belief system!
Some people will openly disagree with our belief system and have numerous reasons why our belief system is wrong. That to a large extent is what our Western society is based on, dualistic thinking. Something is either right or wrong, good or bad, righteous or evil. We apparently in the West inherited this type of thinking from the ancient Greeks. It's good to know not every culture in the world thinks this way. There is non-dual thinking but the dualistic thinker would no doubt find this type of thinking wrong or flawed.
When someone judges your belief system as wrong or flawed it can be very disheartening, particularly if you have recently taken on your new belief system because it's helped lessen some uncertainty in your life or it's helped answer some questions you had about an area of life you were trying to find meaning from.
As examples, your belief system may be that you believe in spirituality or that you're an atheist. You believe in climate change or you don't. You believe in alternative healing. You believe in past lives. You believe public schools provide a better education. You're a liberal. You believe in war. There are a multitude of belief systems we can see as being right and true (is that dualistic thinking??!!).
When you get into dualistic thinking you start to intellectualise this stuff. When you use non-dual awareness you tend to be more accepting. That might scare the dualist because acceptance could lead to complacency especially if something is 'bad'. Or how can things be improved if you're not analysing the evidence, comparing it, debating it? That's the role of the dualist, to put it into some sort of box with a label and if you can provide increasing evidence as to why it should be put in that box, then so much the better!
When you're a non-dualist, well you wouldn't even know you're a non-dualist because you don't necessarily believe in this type of reasoning, this intellectualising stuff. Even so, when you're using non-dual thinking or more so non-dual being, you tend to be more compassionate, humble and act with greater equanimity (you are calmer and more composed). You feel a lot more comfortable with "I don't know". It becomes quite liberating to not have to know all the time!
You also tend to see deeper than the 'shut down' approach that dualistic thinking can bring on because 'I'm right', or 'It's true!'.
At first it can be unsettling because the world of black and white, right and wrong, supposed surety is, well, an easier place to be (at first! - though many people will go to their grave with this supposed sured-ness). Once you get used to this unsettling-ness of non-dual thinking, you start to see the world with much greater richness, colour and meaning. Diversity no longer scares you, there's even sense in suffering (that one may take some time, some practise to get to! I'm thinking here as an example a person experiencing a terminal condition who reaches a state of greater clarity and calmness as a result).
So if you find you have judgements coming thick and fast, you've got an answer for everything, you hate inconsistency or not knowing, get out of your head and get into your heart. Go into your larger mind. Try non-duality.
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